If You Can’t Love Yourself…….

RuPaul says it best. "If you can't love yourself then how the hell are you gonna love somebody else?" The root of so many mental health issues is lack of self-confidence, self-love or conversely, self-loathing. I saw this quote: It's not through healing that you will love yourself. It's through loving yourself, that you will …

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A Bird In Paradise

Last weekend I was so grateful for some sunshine! After a solid week of rain and cold I was getting a bit of cabin fever. I spent all of last Saturday and Sunday sitting in the garden watching my birds and pondering life. I had such a deep feeling of contentment and happiness and I …

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The Birds and Bees

Our house is never silent. There are the yappy poms, chatty Finn, meowling cats and in addition I tend to always have music on in the background. Even when I sit in the garden I put on music. One day my Spotify was acting up and so I turned it off to go sit outside …

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Platitudes and Attitudes

This was the longest 4 day week in history. Tuesday was a public holiday in South Africa. It was 'Women's Day'. I've written before about how high the levels of Gender Based Violence and domestic violence are in South Africa, so this day is just a platitude as nothing changes. We are no more safe …

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Unpacking My Baggage

I have a confession to make. I have an obsession with birds. Not in a lesbian sorta way, but in a David Attenborough sorta way. When I was young I do not remember having this fascination with birds. I do remember sitting out on the patio in Georgia with my beloved Grandmother watching the birds …

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Bewitched and Bedazzled

Last week my house sitter told me that our garden is looking lovely and that made me so happy! Obviously I think so but it is nice to hear from others that it is noticed. If only I could blink like Samantha from Bewitched and have all of our planned changes done at once. Instead …

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Bring It To The Light

I've written many times about the messages I receive. I have received messages since I was a child but did not always understand them as 'messages' and I still do not completely understand from where they originate. When a friend committed suicide I received a bombardment of messages from him. It was almost overwhelming. That …

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Painting and Maintaining

I had such a lovely weekend with my daughters last week. Last Saturday Lily went to a baby shower for a friend who lives in Cape Town and then came to join Caitlin and I to do some painting at Clay Café. Caitlin nor I had eaten so we ordered food when we arrived. Healthy …

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Last Rounds

Last Saturday I said goodbye to my friend Geri who is moving back to the UK. I adore Geri, she is such a kind and giving person with an amazing heart. I first connected with Geri when I saw a notice of a course she was conducting and I reached out to say I was …

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Disassociated

As it was a 4 day work week it flew by, especially with work and life being so busy. Luckily little Panda is much better and that has been our primary stressor. On Friday Panda went to the vet for his end of meds check up and they have decided to keep him on antibiotics …

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