The Power of Understanding

I've mentioned how happy Amelia gets when one of us understands what she is trying to say and I thought about that and realised that being understood is what many of us strive for in our lives, even once we are adults. Maybe that is why I relate to Amelia so, the lifelong misunderstanding of …

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Luminous ‘Lisi

While I was in George, I loved having my morning coffee outside watching the birds while Amelia pottered about. There were so many lovely birds we do not see in Cape Town. There was a rainbird aka a Burchell's Coucal, which makes the funniest sounds as a warning of rain. There was the black African …

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The Comfort of Others

I mentioned last week that I have decided to just completely go with the flow and be open to what the universe brings me. Since then I have realised that one of the ways I help people is just by talking to them. I have so many people message me and tell me so many …

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The Resilience of Women

Last week at Soul Circle we were talking about how most of us (and many women in general) say they are 'Resilient' as if it is something to be proud of. Meanwhile, being able to always be strong is not always a positive, it can also be a trauma response as Nikki our facilitator mentioned. …

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Twist of Fate

On Monday I had a session with my Neurodiversity Therapist. We talked a lot about how our 'quirks' are interpreted as other things and often not identified as symptoms of neuro-diversity. Afterwards I was thinking about how one of my primary stims is twirling my hair. My hair is very thin in one patch from …

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The Net Will Appear

Last weekend was so chilled and low key, despite the weather being in the high 20s to 30s Celsius. It was crazy hot and when my women friends came around on Saturday I decided to just put out fruit, cheese, meats, vegetables, dips, crackers and things to snack on rather than do any cooked food. …

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Lessons from Drag Queens

Anyone who knows me well knows that I am slightly obsessed with Drag Queens. I have just finished watching Werq The World. The messages were that you have to accept yourself, accept that you are who you are and to not care what anyone else thinks. Accept that you are the best version of yourself …

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Platitudes and Attitudes

This was the longest 4 day week in history. Tuesday was a public holiday in South Africa. It was 'Women's Day'. I've written before about how high the levels of Gender Based Violence and domestic violence are in South Africa, so this day is just a platitude as nothing changes. We are no more safe …

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Bewitched and Bedazzled

Last week my house sitter told me that our garden is looking lovely and that made me so happy! Obviously I think so but it is nice to hear from others that it is noticed. If only I could blink like Samantha from Bewitched and have all of our planned changes done at once. Instead …

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The Birds and the Bees

One thing about living in Africa is that I am confronted with how privileged we are on a regular basis. Especially when something happens in one of the townships and you see people losing what little they have and then just getting on with life. There were 2 fires in our village this week. On …

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