I am happy to see the arrival of November because I have been living the single life for the majority of October. I feel like I cannot really complain because I manifested ‘prosperity’ and Norm’s consultancy has taken off amazingly. Norm is so happy working and his client contracts are what finance my new windows that will be installed next week as well as any other work we have already done to the house.
This trip he has gone to Malawi for a FIFA consult and was very spoiled in that he flew business class and was escorted from the airport as a VIP by the police. He was put up in a fancy hotel, but then had to spend 6 hours on dirt roads bouncing along on a road trip to a different location. That whole scenario really sums up life in Africa, such extremes.
The game changer for me not freaking out about being on my own so often is that Finn goes off to doggy day care at Dogs Unlimited every day. He has a blast! It means he is tired when he gets home and less of a barky annoying nuisance.
He sneaks into Norm’s empty side of the bed most mornings. He really is a clown.
Some mornings I wake up to a bed full of the little rascals.
It has been really humid all week and quite windy on some days.
It finally rained a bit yesterday which helped with the humidity but then load-shedding kicked in again which means no air-conditioning at night. While covered with all of those beasties I can get pretty sweaty.
I mentioned in last week’s post that we were planning on attending a Halloween Party last Sunday but Norm was just too exhausted as he only arrived home the prior evening and since he had flown from Europe it was a really long trip. Today we were supposed to go for lunch with Caitlin and Wes as one of the Restaurant Week specials, but Norm forgot and as he is only arriving home late tonight we cancelled. It worked out fine as the kids had something on later which meant they were going to be rushed to do both. I had also bought a ticket for Norm and I to go with some friends to see the Bryan Adams Experience at Cafe Roux this evening but he will not be here for that either so I gave a friend the ticket and there are now 4 of us women going.
I was furiously angry when I found out he was not going to be here and that all of my plans had derailed and would have to be reorganised. Especially when he pulled the ‘I did not know’ card so I sent him the messages where I told him to put it in his diary and where he told me he would be home on the 3rd. Never challenge a Virgo, we have all the receipts to prove you wrong!
I was having incredibly high levels of anxiety, I had been on my own shouldering everything for the pets and house, work was busy, I was detoxing, I had not been to yoga and I flipped out of reality and turned into a psychopath, shouting and throwing things. Sometimes Norm is my whipping boy, but he is also my touchstone to bring me back to reality. I am lucky that he understands my irrational reactions have very little to do with him, and are all about my own issues.
The trigger for me is feeling that I am not being heard. It makes me feel undervalued and irrelevant.
I realised I needed grounding and so I went out to lie in the grass and do an energy exchange. I sent down my negative energy into the earth and filled up on the light from the sun. Lola decided to assist me, cats always know when we need their healing energy. Norm looked out from the upstairs balcony and thought it was hilarious so he snapped a pic.
Luckily he had stopped watching when I got up, then bent over to get the blankets which set off my vertigo and I did an arm-wheeling stagger off of the hill, finally managing to catch hold of a tree to steady me. But it made me laugh and just like that my mood was balanced.
Lola is such a little shadow. I try to sit out every afternoon and she is always snuggled up with me.
I know I need meditation to ground myself and when I get unbalanced I just have to go to the earth, I get frustrated that I KNOW this but still do not follow what is best for me. But one thing I succeeded with this week was no binge eating. I see now how my other vices contribute to my binging, all of these things are intrinsically linked. Stopping one seems to remove the other.
I have been cooking for myself every night that Norm was away. I do not mind just having salad and a baked potato and a few bits of whatever is in the freezer whether it is hake or tempura prawns. But last night I treated myself to a takeaway from Mexicola Locale. I had 2 of their ‘El Pastor’ tacos, described as ‘Braised pork shoulder, red cabbage, pineapple and green chilli salsa, red onion, avocado, lime, coriander’. They were very generous portions and I struggled to finish them both. I also had the Mexican Street Corn topped with chipotle butter and smoked breadcrumbs. It was all so yummy! I got my spice fix before Norm came home.
Norm and I started a new series recently and I am waiting on him to get back for us to finish it. It is called “Bodies” and can be streamed on Netflix. We love the UK police shows and did not even read the description, we just assumed it was a run of the mill cop show. But wow! This show takes place over 4 generations from Victorian England to 30 years in the future from now. The same dead body turns up in the same area of London in 1890, 1941, 2023 and 2053. It is keeping us on the edge of our seats trying to figure it out so no spoilers! I really recommend this one if you like a bit of intrigue and sci-fi all rolled up into a complex storyline.
Today I woke bright eyed and bushy tailed and ready for the world. I’ve done my prayers and tidied up a bit. I want to do a bit of gardening as I have a pot that has broken so I need to replant those succulents before they die of exposure as one side of the pot just fell off (I knocked it by mistake).
My friends are coming here to collect me for the show tonight. I will have dinner there and then late tonight Norm will be back. Next weekend I go to George to see my kids and gorgeous little Millie.
Until next time, Kisses from the Kitten xoxoxoxoxo
Kitten in the City 