If You Can’t Love Yourself…….

RuPaul says it best. "If you can't love yourself then how the hell are you gonna love somebody else?" The root of so many mental health issues is lack of self-confidence, self-love or conversely, self-loathing. I saw this quote: It's not through healing that you will love yourself. It's through loving yourself, that you will …

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A Bird In Paradise

Last weekend I was so grateful for some sunshine! After a solid week of rain and cold I was getting a bit of cabin fever. I spent all of last Saturday and Sunday sitting in the garden watching my birds and pondering life. I had such a deep feeling of contentment and happiness and I …

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The Birds and Bees

Our house is never silent. There are the yappy poms, chatty Finn, meowling cats and in addition I tend to always have music on in the background. Even when I sit in the garden I put on music. One day my Spotify was acting up and so I turned it off to go sit outside …

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Platitudes and Attitudes

This was the longest 4 day week in history. Tuesday was a public holiday in South Africa. It was 'Women's Day'. I've written before about how high the levels of Gender Based Violence and domestic violence are in South Africa, so this day is just a platitude as nothing changes. We are no more safe …

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Lazy Days and Sundays

Last Saturday Norm and I joined our friends Dave, Julie and Darren for lunch at Chef's Warehouse which is a beautiful restaurant at the Beau Constantia Vineyard. They also have a designated area for wine tasting or just to imbibe in a social setting. We have so many choices of first class restaurants on our …

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Unpacking My Baggage

I have a confession to make. I have an obsession with birds. Not in a lesbian sorta way, but in a David Attenborough sorta way. When I was young I do not remember having this fascination with birds. I do remember sitting out on the patio in Georgia with my beloved Grandmother watching the birds …

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The Weight of Other People’s Opinions

I mentioned in my last post that Norm's birthday was Sunday the 17th and that we were going for a Tasting Menu lunch at Foxcroft with Caitlin and Wes. As many 'big girls' do I had carefully pre-planned what I was going to be wearing: it had to be comfortable enough to eat copious amounts …

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Bewitched and Bedazzled

Last week my house sitter told me that our garden is looking lovely and that made me so happy! Obviously I think so but it is nice to hear from others that it is noticed. If only I could blink like Samantha from Bewitched and have all of our planned changes done at once. Instead …

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Quarter Century

I often forget how old I actually am. I definitely do not feel old. However Norm and I had our 25th wedding anniversary on July 5th so obviously I am really, really old. On the evening of our actual anniversary it was a bit of a disaster. It was load shedding and we both worked …

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Bring It To The Light

I've written many times about the messages I receive. I have received messages since I was a child but did not always understand them as 'messages' and I still do not completely understand from where they originate. When a friend committed suicide I received a bombardment of messages from him. It was almost overwhelming. That …

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